Gratitude is altitude!

We spend a lot of time complaining about one thing or another. Let’s take the time to acknowledge things that we are grateful for!

đź’—Starting April 1st for 30 days I will make a post or a video on my Instagram (sheree.xo) saying one thing that I am grateful for! I want you to do the same! If you cannot be grateful for what you have now how can you expect more blessings?!

Share your posts using the hashtag #gratefulwithlove

Focus(ed)

We all have an idea of who we want to be in our minds, what our ideal life would be! The person we’d be if we had this job, lived in that city, or had those friends.

What is stopping us from being that person, nothing but ourselves. We are our only limitation. I truly believe that we only go after things that we know we can have. For instance, when applying for a job instead of applying for supervisor position because we are too afraid you apply for an associate position and then wish that you were a supervisor.

Why do we allow self doubt to take us out of the game before it even starts? If the person you want to be is beyond that scary thing then go for it! How can we ever become who we want to be if we never try?

Ok so you look over the qualifications and you don’t necessarily meet them all, and you convince yourself they will never call you back for that position. Did you ever stop to think maybe for a moment they will.

That ideal life that you have cooked up in your mind is waiting on you. The person you want to be is standing there waiting arms crossed tapping their fingers patiently waiting, on you to stop playing small! Get out there and make your dreams reality! Until next time remember to do all things with love xoxo

Wearing a smile!

One Day last week I woke up to a Facebook post of an old friend stating that she tried to commit suicide. Immediately everyone began to encourage her telling her to hold on and the she matters has a purpose and is needed. Check on your friends and family. People wear smiles every single day and they may be hurting inside.

As black people most of us were raised with the teaching “oh i don’t need help”, “counseling is for white people”, or “ i don’t need anyone in my business”. Sometimes you have to reach out to people for help. Do not be afraid to ask for help. If you cannot call on your friends to help you when you are in need why do they have the privilege to be in your life?

We were not created to live our lives alone, in some way form or fashion we have to depend on one another to survive. If you are feeling some type of way and need someone to talk to reach out to a friend someone you can trust to listen and not judge you, we all need that sometimes there is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you do not want to talk to a friend from fear of them sharing your business find a professional there are programs that will offer counseling services for free or cheap. Talk to someone.

I’m back!!!

Hello lovies! I apologize for the hiatus. I wish that I could say I was off somewhere working on myself doing, self care sessions or working on something’s for you all but that is not the case. I honestly was just having some doubt and silencing my voice. I have written a few pieces I just didn’t post them, selfish huh?

I will begin sharing and encouraging again as it is something that I love to do and I always have something to say!! So be on the lookout for new blog posts!

Xoxo

Patience 

People always say to me, “you’re so patient”. But they have no idea of the battle I’m fighting inside!! I am completely impatient, I suppose I just face it well. I’m impatient knowing what I want out of life. I’m impatient knowing that I am not there yet, and it gets frustrating. Starting in 2012 I started seeing this post, “you can’t rush something you want to last forever”, and the impatient me said “that’s crazy!”. I was thinking well the sooner it gets here the sooner I can enjoy it! The sooner I enjoy it the happier I’ll be! But how can you enjoy something that you aren’t ready for!? You can’t! I have a friend when we first met she cooked everything on high! I would ask her why did she cook on high, her response was because she didn’t want to wait. One day she called me and said “I just want you to know that I cooked in medium and I was starving, but it was good!” To me that represents daily life.. so quickly we want to get through it to get to the next day and the next weekend instead of savoring the little moments. When we rush things they seem great until they aren’t. Being patient breeds quality, value, and appreciation. The quality of something alone ensures that it will last. Quality indicates that it was created with love and patience. The things we value we take extra care of in an effort for it to keep its value. Appreciation by definition is the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something. When we appreciate things we enjoy them a little better.

Therefore in life we must practice patience. Patience with our circumstances, our loved ones, and most importantly ourselves because is the understanding of growth and value.

Love Yourself First

I’ve heard people say that they hate this part about their self or that part. Every time I hear things like that I get a little sad. We have all heard the saying we teach people how to love us. 
If we pick and choose what parts of ourselves that we love then others will do the same. We have to learn to love every inch of ourselves from the top to the bottom, front to back! EVERY SINGLE PART!
Everyone, even those who won’t admit it want to be loved in their entirety as they are in their most natural state. People want to be loved unconditionally through the good the bad and the ugly, so we must first love ourselves in that way.
It is easy to pick apart the smallest things that we do not like because we are our own worst critics. We see parts of ourselves as imperfect as if anyone is perfect. We can all sit and tear ourselves apart piece by piece but what good would that do? Then we would all walk around feeling unlovable and question every person who ever claimed to love us. 
People will tell you that you are full of yourself, arrogant, or conceited but in reality that’s what you should be, as long as you aren’t a jerk. Who will love you like you do? Who will love you when no one else feels the need? Who will look at you and tell you that you are IT!?! If you do not first love yourself and tell yourself these things how can you teach anyone else to appreciate these things about you? Love starts within oneself. 
Tonight before you go to bed tell yourself that you love you, every part of you! It all begins with you! Do all things with love. Xoxo

Self-Care is None Negotiable! 


Self care is very important. I’m so happy that it is becoming a mainstream topic since mental health has been so “taboo”. But, self care isn’t just about doing things that you love. 
Self care includes showing up for yourself and committing to yourself, making good decisions, and being able to check yourself when you are wrong.
Self care isn’t always as glamorous as being pampered, it often requires us to do the inside work. We have to stop and examine ourselves, doing a mental checklist of where we are and where we are going.
It’s easy to say “I’m going to start going to the gym”, “I’m going to eat better”, or “I’m going to start my own business”, the work is in starting and committing. Showing up for yourself is making a decision to move ahead no matter what. It’s deciding that you are going to do something and doing it with everything in you, that is self care! 
Think about all of the things you said you wanted to do, but never did… when you think of them you may find yourself a tad bit disappointed. My former coach and life purpose cheerleader, Amber Valdez, always says “people who are not doing what makes them happy will grow into grumpy unhappy people”. Something so simple as volunteering at your favorite charity can be an act of self care because it fills your heart! No one is perfect, we all make mistakes but recognizing that mistake and choosing to correct it is an act of self care. A lot of us wallow in disappointment after making a bad decision, bringing us down even further, but if we acknowledge what we did wrong and do our very best not to do it again that is an act of self care.
Self care is an act of self love and you cannot pour from an empty cup. This week take the time to do something you’ve been putting off, examine yourself and how your decisions affect you! Remember to do these acts and all things with love! Xoxo